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Monday, January 2, 2012

Thoughts on Pregnancy #2

It took us a year to get pregnant with Ellie. Before that we had miscarried and had a bout of unsuccessful "trying". Getting pregnant this time around wasn't a shock, as in, we knew it was a possibility, but we honestly didn't expect it to happen the first month, given our history.

We are thankful, of course. I'm relieved that I won't have to deal with month after month of waiting and disappointment. I wouldn't wish that emotional turmoil on anyone, and unfortunately I have several friends who deal with this today. I think about them all the time.

I wasn't sure if I was quite ready for another baby. We've always thought we'd like to have siblings close in age, but as Ellie got older and the thought of growing our family became more real, I had moments of doubt.

I worried about Ellie and how she would do without our undivided attention. Ironically, this is also one of the many reasons we want another baby. I think about having two in diapers at the same time. Or our tiny house and the fact that these two will have to share a room as soon as I decide I can't have a newborn in our room anymore. With Ellie, it was when she was 2 weeks old. (We both slept better as soon as she moved to her own room.) But again, this is also something we want.

I worry if I can handle two at home during the day. I wonder how we can afford another baby and all the doctor visits and appointments and other costs that incur with a baby.

I worry if our marriage gets enough attention now, let alone what will happen with another little one to occupy our time, thoughts, and energy.

I worry that I will be so tired those first several weeks that I will not give Ellie the attention she needs.

I worry that after having such a good-natured, easy-going, good eater and sleeper and overall happy baby that we are in for something altogether different this time around.

But then, I think about all that we have to look forward to. The intense love that pours out the moment we see our tiny little bundle. The cuddles and sweetness of a newborn. The opportunity for Ellie to have a sibling to love and play with and share with and to learn all the important lessons that happen growing up with a sibling.

I often question God's timing
. And once again, in this process, I was a bit surprised at the timing of this baby. But I'm already seeing so many wonderful things about this. I know even future plans that I'm not yet aware of will be affected by this timing, and I see God's hand in it all.

I'm thankful that pregnancy lasts 40 weeks so that we have time to adjust to this new addition, from moving from a family of three to four, to all the other changes that will undoubtedly arise. This pregnancy feels like it's zooming by much more quickly than the last one and I'm trying to soak up all the time I have left with our sweet family of three before our life as we know it changes again forever. I can't wait.

3 comments:

Mark & Joellen said...

Ah, I can SO relate :) It took us several years to get pregnant with our 1st and only one month to get pregnant with our second! And during a huge part of the pregnancy I wondered what in the world we were thinking. Yes, having 2 in diapers is TOUGH! Two kids who still cry when hungry instead of just telling you, two kids who cry when they are tired, who are crabby without any visible explanation - it's a tough job. But, I love having them close (18 mos)! My boys are SUCH good pals now. Looking back I wonder how I survived but God always provides, even if there's nothing left for ambition or extra activities, there's enough to meet the needs of those He wants you to meet needs for. You're doing a great job to remember to trust God's timing & I'm excited for you guys!!

Jessi said...

Funny, your journey is backwards from ours (except we haven't experienced miscarriage). We conceived Caleb right away, but we're embarking on month #16 of trying for our second. I've been holding onto Romans 8:28 - "For we know that all things work together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His good purpose." Whatever we're worried about, whether it's getting pregnant or how to handle two kids, God is looking out for our best interests.

Krista said...

I think every pregnant mama must have these same thoughts! What were we thinking??? :) But that is indeed a good reason to have 9 months to think about it and get used to the idea.
Having more is definitely different, but I think your life changes more going from no kids to kids than just adding more (we shall see how true this is! ;)
God will provide, you will be great as a mama of 2! :)